Modeling Integrity As A Person And As A Parent,Nike Free 3.0 V2 Grå Orange Running Shoes
You know one of the reasons we can end up single parenting is that we no longer share the same values as our children other parent and our respect and understanding of that person alters to the point of break down.
So how do we keep improving the quality of our relationships (especially with our exes) in an extended family when it didn work under the same roof?
1. Practice Integrity
Integrity is defined as: eing of sound moral principle; upright,Frauen MBT Schuhe Verkauf Meli Tan, honest, and sincere? So you do what you say youe going to do and you are fare and consistent. If there are agreements you stick by them; changes you negotiate them; and insults you rise above them.
This is a simple principle. However living by it isn always easy. Integrity takes time to develop. It requires us to recognize when wee done something well (like reaching an agreement in a conversation with our ex when it might otherwise have become ugly) and to consciously repeat that success. It requires us to be aware when there are opportunities to learn (like times when we have been unfair or critical) and to consider and practice an alternative approach next time.
2. Trust the Truth
The old sayings are the best ones and he truth will set you free?is simple yet massively powerful. Keeping ersions?of stories in your head to tell one to yourself, one to your ex, and one to your children is a real juggling act. It sucks up energy that could otherwise be channeled for creativity and progress. Keeping ersions?or secrets is exhausting and potentially dangerous. Ultimately,Mænds Nike Shox Agent Grå Purple Black løbesko, only the truth being out there will take the stress away and allow you to deal with a situation with transparency and maturity.
Telling the truth when we know wel likely get an earful is a tough one though (even as a grown up!!). Think of it from a parent to a child ?if you teach your son or daughter that telling the truth is the right thing, you must allow them to act on those principles without fear. So when they tell you about he crystal they broke? he boyfriend they kissed? or the acky-backy they smoked? you must acknowledge them for the boldness and honesty they developed to talk to you about it in the first place. IF you bawl them out when theye actually done the right thing (hard though it was for them to say and for you to hear) ?how will that encourage them to be truthful next time? (I not saying don reprimand here,Nike Zoom Kobe VII sort White Wolf Grå Sko, I saying don overreact.)
It the same principle with your ex. If you want your ex to be reasonable and honest about access, finances and decision making, youe got to be careful not to react in a limiting way. If you have to wait 24 hours to respond to an aggressive email calmly, do it. If you have to take a deep breath before completely ignoring a rude remark, do it. If you need to step away from the sharp kitchen implements ?(I kidding,read more!!).
3. Lean on LOVE
I am not talking about the romantic, flowery, heart-balloon,Nike Free 3.0 V2 Grå Rød sorte sko, truffles kind of love here. I talking about the real, tough, unconditional, connects-us-to-the-core-of-mankind sort of LOVE that changes lives in a dramatic way.
In my experience developing this sort of love for the people you really do love, and want to love and choose to love is a quality piece of learning (and much of it is intuitive). Using this love for the people you prefer never to be in contact with again is mega-off-the-scale, post-graduate, plus,Nike LunarGlide 2 løbesko Sort Rød, plus kind of learning (and much of it is practiced and developed over time ?and I mean lifelong,MBT Schuhe Pia auf den Verkauf!).
What Ie learned though is this. Big LOVE as a founding principle is a winning formula for change. Talk with it,Dame Air Force 1 Low Easter Egg Edition Red, behave with it, give it, receive it, develop it,Dame Nike Air Presto Vævet Purple Black Sko, be inspired by it and watch the people around you (even the exes ?God love em!) respond with positivity, respect and love in return.
LOVE is the stuff of miracles. (And that a whole other article). 相关的主题文章：
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